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Service vs. Struggle.
How can I best show up for this person? How would I want to feel if I was them?
How can I serve? How can I best use my hands, my heart, my brain, my voice, my unique talents to better someone else in this moment, day, week, life?
Questions I have found my heart and soul pondering consistently in the last few months and you know what, it dawned on me only recently that this has been the key to my clouds lifting. In fact the two negatively correlate.
If you want frankness - I’ve known depression. I’ve known mental anguish. I known hopelessness and darkness. I’ve known anger and disappointment. I’ve known desperation and despair. I’ve known gut wrenching loneliness. The list could go on.
I’ve known all these things plenty of times over my life’s path even in relatively recent times.
I also know we all have.
I ashamedly admit now that I used to think I was alone in what I suffered. I used to think nobody else could possibly know the pain I felt. WTF.
While the minutiae may be different, I now realise we have ALL suffered. We all suffer. We ALL have trauma. Who cares what the difference in details are. At the end of the day we ALL need to be f***king held, heard and unconditionally loved.
In this moment, I feel there is nothing I have read about or been taught when it comes to moving through angst (and trust me - there has been a lot), that has been as powerful in lifting my darkness as learning this lesson.
S E R V E
There is something transformative about building up, helping, sharing, aiding, labouring, relieving, guiding, advocating, encouraging, assisting, attending to, promoting, allowing, just holding space for - someone else!
Putting people before your own stresses or “needs”. You don’t even have to necessarily know them. In fact the service of “strangers” possibly holds the most potent power for those who struggle with boundaries (having clear boundaries is imperative - so I do disclaim beware proximity (maybe more on this #anotherpostanotherday)). The weirdest thing hey? The more you do for others - the better you feel yourself. End your struggle. Start serving.
From my to yours 🙏🏼
I tend to look for beauty around me, because it makes me smile, whether it be in the form of a person, a place or an experience. I think that’s very important thing for a person to do, to appreciate life. But it is also important to recognise the pain that’s happening all around us. What’s happening in America right now is awful. Children are being torn away from their parents. Parents who just want a better lives for themselves and their families. I commented on this and encouraged people to donate to help them when my brother reminded me that this isn’t an isolated incident, this is happening all over the world. He’s right. We can get easily caught up in a social media frenzy, get outraged at an incident and then in a few days time, we’ll have already moved onto another tragedy. Those people are unable to do that. We see pictures that demonstrates an awful day, but they’re living that day over and over, groundhog style. Can we do more? Should we do more? Why aren’t we doing more?
Why does the colour of our skin, ethnicity, gender, sex or identity divide us? We are who we are, and we should be loved for it.
Reni-Eddo Lodge words it perfectly. “If feminism can understand the patriarchy, it’s important to question why so many feminists struggle to understand whiteness as a political structure in the very same way.” Empathy. That’s the key word here. We may not be able to relate to them, but we can try to understand what they’re going through, based on our own experiences. We all have different life experiences, but that doesn’t mean we can’t show up and give support and speak up when it’s necessary.
People all around the world face oppression daily, and whilst they’re not all on the same level, that doesn’t mean they don’t deserve support or care. If you’re able to help out, no matter if it’s little or large, please do so. Every bit helps.
No hate. Just love.
🦋🦋. S U R R E N D E R 🦋🦋
I was trying to control life.
So I didn’t feel pain.
Pain I’ve experienced before.
That lived in my cells.
If I could predict what was coming
I WAS SAFE!! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But was I! Was I safe? Or had I eluded myself into thinking that the wall I built was keeping me safe? When it was actually keeping me SMALL! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
That wall, the one that protected me, also rejected me.
It rejected happiness, and joy, and love, and emotions of release. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You see .....that wall, the control, doesn’t differentiate between what it shields. A wall is a wall! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So now, instead of controlling to feel safe..... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I SURRENDER. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
To what is. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And I choose to feel it all as part of my human experience as a spirtual being. 🦋🙏🏻
BECAUSE ALL MY NEEDS ARE MET! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I love you. I love me.
INGRID xoxo #InjectSelfLove
It’s been a weird couple days. But that will happen. Life is good, and sometimes bad. Filled with joy and sometimes sad. Whatever I’m feeling: happy, tired, overwhelmed, overjoyed, ... i sweat. I show up, and work it out. Because things will test you, sometimes things will try to break you, but YOU will show up. Fight. Give your best that day. Because that’s what you CAN do. Don’t let anything hold you back. Feel it. And then work through it. Happy saturday my friends! .
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“I’m awfully sentimental. Of books, belongings, people, places. It matters very little how positive or negative the experience was. If it shared some meaningful time in my life, it will hold sentiment in my heart.” - Beau Taplin
FAAAAK IT! I’m off to IBEEEFA! Remember my last post where I said how you can combine work and pleasure and travel all in one? Well how about this:
- paid flights to ibiza
- beachfront accommodation
- paid days consulting
- scoping out pimp AF mastermind location
- mincing about in pink shorts and a sparkly vest of an evening (again, amazing I’m straight but here we are)
I’ll do a live or a post or something later explaining HOW you can do it...equally it maybe tomorrow because it’s not often you get looked after by an international DJ eh? Send thoughts and prayers... 🤣🤣🤣
Loved a challenge I heard recently - when you wake up in the morning - set the pace for your day. Don’t pick up your phone and see what is happening because that is reacting. Have a routine that puts you in a positive and on top of the world mindset. So so much of life is all about our mind. You get to be in charge of you 💕
Speaking of mindset - I DID NOT WANT TO EXERCISE TONIGHT. But accountability helped me show up. I made up my mind to keep my commitment and not let my feelings of reaction take hold.
Let’s get real out here for a minute. These little squares represent our life. Yes, they represent the good and a little bit of the ugly, but mostly good. I am OK with that for the most part but I want you to know that life is not always cakes and cookies.
Just like some of you I struggle with anxiety (thank you Jesus for oils). Just like some of you my kids don’t always get along. Just like some of you there are days when I need a break. Just like some of you....
Always know that I will sit with you in the dark. Hang with you always. Be there when you feel like you can’t get it together. Peeps. We are in this thing called life together. As long as we don’t get stuck in the dark places we we can do anything in this life “together”.
Keep going. Tomorrow is a new day. I wake up every day with @melrobbinslive 5,4,3,2....1 then I spend some time with Jesus, drink my cup of Joe and do all the thangs. Is it always easy. No. Is it always worth it. Yes!!
AND when we get back to these little squares I am kinda thankful for them because I wouldn’t have met some of you.
Life is Iike summer camp. We are here for a short time so let’s have fun and make the most of it!
Pressure. How do we end up burying ourselves with so much pressure? Damn. I didn’t get enough done today. I got up at 6a, worked out, watered the plants, made breakfast and lunch for my kids, phone calls, sold, packaged, and shipped 20 products from the business, social media posts for both personal and business, grocery shopping, cleaned the kitchen and the rest of the house, walked pets, made love to my partner, dinner for the family, cleaned up, read stories to the little ones and eventually made it to bed. Wait a second, he has kids?! I water my plants. I don’t over water them now and they are grateful I’m not drowning them. Point being, where does it say when I open my eyes in the morning I have to give 100% or more for that day? I’m tired. And that is okay. I thought after my post recently I would be so energized ready to train for iron man, or a least a 5K. Hell no. It’s been the opposite. One day you are on top of a mountain and the next day you are trudging through shit. There are going to be many days where you show up 0.1%. The point is you did it. You got up. And you tried. Don’t let pressure take away from the gains of being your best self. #effort#slowdown#showup#mindful#smallwins#bestself
Someone msged me saying I should portray more of my mental strength on IG- as in show HOW I am mentally strong
Well, this got me thinking
I don’t do this all that much. Although, I probably sound from my captions that I have my mentality sorted, kinda thing.
But - I share with you my perspectives of how I know I can be if I try. I write about my views on being mentally strong because I KNOW that it’s possible
I do repeat the things I write, in my head, when situations occur. But I can’t deny how much my insecurities & feelings of downness affect me
I don’t wanna come across as though I do everything right, because I don’t
The physical things I do - working out & meditation etc - I show up to every day even when I don’t want to. I’ve made these things part of my life
But my mental strength isn’t great with these things anyway - I spend a good 3 hours in the gym every day - because quite often I spend too long resting, & i don’t get up early - which I have felt is an impossible thing to change for a while. I want to read 10 pages per day of a book... but some how I don’t find the time?
I constantly want to be writing quality captions ... but I get confused about who I’m actually trying to speak to. & so often I don’t want to bother at all! But I have to keep SHOWING UP - to all of these things
I doubt myself &
get distracted &I’m quite selfish with my time & I sometimes block out my head by scrolling through Instagram - but I really do try and minimise these things. I feel quite vulnerable at times really, & am quick to crumble in to tears when I am confronted with a sad sitch & I find small talk very difficult
But it’s all about perspective - because these are some of my weaknesses. I want you to see that no one is perfect with their life sorted. i like to show up everyday to share what I’ve learnt. When I’m writing about what I’ve learnt it’s often because I am going or have gone through something and am trying to be strong myself. When I in some way help someone else it helps me too!
So I’ll keep sharing - and keep showing up to the things I know make me a stronger - while trying to grow from my weaknesses so that I can help others in the process
FRI-YAY GIVEAWAY!💥💥💥Today I'm teaming up with @emmaflhair - we got connected after a conference earlier this year - Emma is a fabulous business owner out of Spokane, Washington who makes custom hair accessories. Think: Bachelorette or Bridal Parties, Branded items for your business, etc. She's so fun! I'm holding a custom set of hair ties that Emma put together for me based on request (Just my faves since H+H doesn't have branded colors!) ••• Today we're giving away YOUR own custom set of hair ties. How to enter? Follow both @emmaflhair and me, comment below with your 5 colors, and tag a friend who might like this too! 👱🏻♀️👱🏻♀️👱🏻♀️WINNER will be announced tomorrow - so make sure you enter before 10am mtn time Saturday 😘Oh, and the peonies just made the photo too because #PEONIES 🌷 #HemsAndHeard#EmmaFlhair#GetFlhaired
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Yes, this is a picture of me reading my own caption... 😋😂 How to find balance with food and exercise⬇️
If you have trouble working out consistently and eating healthy, you are not alone! Here are a couple of things you can do to increase your success rate:
Map out your week, a schedule a workout with yourself ahead of time a minimum of 3 times a week! Make sure you are setting realistic goals for yourself, and follow through.
Make sure you have plenty of healthy food choices around you at home, and get rid of the junk you don’t want to end up eating at 8pm.
If you eat better more often then not, it will add up!! And if you are consistently exercising, even just for 3 days, you will see a change in yourself, and your motivation level!!!💪🏼💕